I used to think I would know myself to be mature when I could simply be gay without emphasis, but the self-loathing of that period left a void, and celebration needs to fill and overflow it, and even if I repay my private debt of melancholy, there’s still an outer world of homophobia that it will take decades to address.


If we live out loud, we can trounce the hatred and expand everyone’s lives.

Forge meaning. Build identity. Forge meaning. Build identity. And then invite the world to share your joy